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Find the good, be that good

Find the good, be that good

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I used to wonder (silently of course)…why I received so many blessings in this life’s journey. Until, one day, I chanced to meet an elderly silver haired woman, who upon meeting me smiled, took my hand turned it over and said “whatever you did in your past life has given you an abundance of Karma, but you already know this” she patted my hand before allowing mine to slide from her gentle grasp and before I could scratch three words together she was gone. No explanation, no summary, just a smile, a declaration, and “poof.”

I can find good in most every situation and many people. I implore you to choose to find the good in your daily dealings, of course you may be required to look hard. The negative energy is laying in the wide open for everyone…I challenge you to be different (step away from the crowd), be better (rise above the fray), be the good (believe it only takes one voice, choose to let it be yours).

 

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Against all odds…

“When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory.”  Friedrich Nietzsche

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I prayed for the husband I have. I made a list, I was diligent as I transcribed my thoughts in to words and wrote them creating a list of what “I” desired in a partner. I prayed over my list, placed that list in my bible, and (patiently) waited. At that time, I was in my mid 20’s and many of my prior and current associations/close connections had been linked to and with married couples. I’d like to think that from those associations, I learned how to be a good and better wife, however without doubt I know that those close relationships taught me how to be a stronger me.

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My #1 of that list was “someone who could always make me laugh.” In my youth I was a firm believer that with a good partner by your side you could see beyond a storm as long as you were willing to have one single ray of hope and always laugh together (he does that and so much more). Certainly, I encountered situations that should have left me jaded, but for whatever reason did not.
Over the years I have revisited my list, the list I penned so many years ago (still tucked away in my bible) and noted that as my husband and I have grown and matured in our marriage/partnership, we have succeeded what began as “my” list and begin to create and collaborate a list for what “we” desire not only in our marriage, but in one another as husband and wife, lover and friends…and certainly life partners.

We are two hearts united who have beat the odds, having found and nurtured love creating our own love story.

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**This list I plan to share w/ my daughters with hopes that they will add to it and share it with their own daughters.

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Nothing is as simple as one perceives 😊

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Married Folks Humor….

So my hubby went to work Man-D overtime today, and I signed on for a home project (singular) 

He just called saying “they tried to keep me, but I fought a good fight and won!” (meaning he’d escaped)

The conversation quickly turned to what I was doing. So, how far did you get on your project today?

Well…what I will tell the court is what I initially thought would be a simple and rewarding project (sanding our 10×24 deck) quickly turned into a very very tedious & back breaking project. Admittedly, after about ten minutes of sanding, I began thinking…this is one of those “hire out” projects. ROTFL

As was typical of me, I had seen only the “A & C” (the beginning and end) of the project without really considering the “B” aspect before leaping forward into the project (that B is always outside my realm of thought).

Did he gloat…nope, he looked at the chairs I had painted and said, I see you wanted to put your “accomplished” stamp on something today!

Hindsight: a woman should marry a man who makes her laugh, keeps her smiling, never views her as a workhorse and understands that her happiness is paramount to all things first and foremost.

So my hubby went to work man-d overtime today and I signed on for a home project (singular). very tedious & back breaking project. Ten minutes in I was thinking…this is one of those “hire out” projects. ROTFL

As usual, I saw the “A & C” of the project, however I never really framed the “B” in the project (that is always outside my realm of thought).

Did he gloat…nope he looked at the chair I painted and said, I see you wanted to put your “accomplished” stamp on something today!

Hindsight: one should marry a man who can makes you laugh, keeps you smiling, never views you as a workhorse and sees your happiness as paramount to all things first and foremost. 💕

Revisited 5/19/2017

 

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Things that I do when I am lying awake…

awakeIt is just mere minutes before 6am according to the clock on my iphone. I have been awake for the last two hours laying in bed catching up and reading both blog post that I follow and panning new ones. I was awaken by the snow trucks coming through and then I hearing the pitter patter of tiny feet on the carpet (hey, I have mother,s hearing) and saw a tiny head appear in the shadow of my iphone light. After a potty run, a kiss and tucking him back in his bed he had driffted off to sleep and I again lay awake…scrolling. Then I realized that I was 1) hungry and 2) dying to write something…and I managed to do both in just 8 minutes. Smile

 

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Listen to your whispers

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Yesterday was a very good day. As usual morning arrived early awaking me with a gentle whisper.

Morning, as she is known to me sat back quietly and patiently watched as I drifted back to the warmth of my slumber. After twenty-five minutes, I was awake and refreshed. As I lay there in the comfort and warmth I must admit, I did consider not getting out of bed, but bailing on work, but then commitment entered the room lifted the corner of the bed sheet and pulled them back. Without a word she sat down beside me on the side of the bed and “poof” the thought was gone.

So, as I drove into the office I begin to think about the number of situations we live in yet possess little to no control over in our daily lives. A quiet smile crept across my face, because I knew that this decision was my own and on my terms. I hadn’t awaken in a cold sweat of panic, I wasn’t even losing sleep over my decision. The truth was although I had my concerns, I was also resolute in my decision and prepared to close this chapter of my life.

This job from the very beginning had felt as if I was shoving my size 8 foot into a miniature size 4…it wasn’t a good fit and as time passed the obvious pain and daily discomfort had created more than it’s share of callous on my spirit. Understand, I did not feel as if I were leaving empty handed. I had acquired a profound respect for the clients who entered through our doors, many embarrassed and ashamed, but in need. I felt that I had again acquired tools that would be welcomed additions to my toolbag.

This morning was like any other, except that I arrived to a box of peppermint candy canes and a sweet ice tea on my desk which my coworker had so thoughtfully purchased. Several of my coworkers (and my supervisor) surprised me by taking me to lunch with me. I had accomplished my goal of cleaning all the previous tenants junk out, wiped everything down with Clorox wipes and completed my final work task prior to days end. Throughout the day, I sang a number of my favorite childhood songs many which seem to come from Sesame Street. I started the sing song with Sing, topped with a dash of Mah na Mah na and concluded the day with a showing stopping performance belting Hakuna Matata as I danced around the office inciting laughter and hugs.

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Live life on your terms and never be afraid to say good-bye….Hakuna Matata

 
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Posted by on January 2, 2013 in happiness, perspective, work

 

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In the beginning…

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Everyday, something incredible happens it may happen to me, to you, or even a complete stranger, but something incredible happens.

I was just thinking how nice it would be to be on the making it happen end of things. Three hundred and sixty-five days of giving, listening caring, doing, and sharing.

 

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Life…

Can you remember your first bicycle and the freedoms that came with it?

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Why not enjoy those freedoms again, the only thing holding you back is YOU!

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My mantra…“Enjoy the ride, don’t put so much emphasis on the destination”

 
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Posted by on December 28, 2012 in Love Stories, marriage, Personal

 

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Pen & paper, ready, set….

I truly want to believe…that I could accomplish this. That I could take time from the world, from stuff and doing and really be able to focus 20-30 minutes and write about varying quasi randomly selected topics over a period of 30 days.

…and then, I laugh to myself as my mind begins to arbitrarily run through the ever-ending list of my current incomplete blog titles, the ones, I was so eager and smart about when I scribbled the title down.

I begin to consider how difficult it is for me to find 20-30 minutes to do something that creates, nooooo, that initiates a spark and awakens a joy, a love of words dancing, spinning, jumping, spiraling across the page constructing a story, a love, a fascination that I have had long since childhood…my adoration with words.

In the past, I have usually scribbled a topic or a few lines in passing and thought “I’ll get back to that”…and if and when I did I am completely devoid of why I selected those words, that topic or what it meant to me at that time.

Having identified, understood and communicated my challenges; I welcome this opportunity and thus, in September I will commit to this writing challenge. You are welcome to join me and write or to follow me and read. I also hope that you will be my encouragement and urge me to push forward as I “write” to complete this challenge like the “Superstar” that I know I am.

Mission Completed!

30 day writing prompts as written by  http://laghairt.wordpress.com/2012/08/04/30-days-meme-2/

1. Write about your current relationship, or about being single.  ✓
2. Where do you want to be in ten years? ✓
3. Your opinion about drugs and alcohol.
4. Your opinion about religion.
5. One moment when you thought about suicide.
6. Write thirty interesting facts about yourself. ✓
7. Your star sign and how do you think it fits. ✓
8. Moment when you were most satisfied with your life.
9. What do you hope your future will be? ✓
10. Describe your first love and your first kiss. ✓
11. Turn on your music player, turn on shuffle and write the first ten songs it’ll play. ✓
12. Describe your whole day in short notes.
13. Which country would you like to visit or move in? ✓
14. Your earliest memory. ✓
15. Your favourite bloggers/websites.
16. Your opinion on mainstream music.
17. Your successes and failures in last year.
18. What do you believe in? ✓
19. When did you not respect your parents?
20. How important is education for you?
21. One of your favourite TV shows.
22. How did you change in past two years?
23. Five pictures of famous girls/women you find attractive. ✓
24. Your favourite movie and what it’s about.
25. Someone who fascinates you and why.
26. What kind of men attracts you?
27. What problem did you have?
28. Something you miss.
29. Your goals for the next 30 days.
30. Your successes and failures in this month.
 
 
 

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Missing you

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I’m totally missing you tonight.

I asked, who do I call for sage unfiltered advice, wisdom w/ wit, love and nurturing, buckets of laughter or those times when I just want to be close to my Grand now?

…and there was no one to answer.

I know you’ve joined the choir already and rumor has it…you’re in good company. {wink wink} and I don’t want to hear about you and Whitney fighting over lead or microphone.

Kiss my Grand and please tell I’m over due a rainbow LoL, give grandfather a hug and tell Uncle Fred you were taken from my life to soon, but I’m sure he’s been counting everyday for 20+ years.

 

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Where is your Hoola Hoop?

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Here’s a thought, I’m a control freak!

Recently an associate shared a story with me as I was having a stressful day.

A young woman having crap poured into her life from every possible direction, felt as if she couldn’t take another single breath. Being a member of AA she reached out to the only person to whom she could entrust to understand, her sponsor.

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The sponsor listened intently as the young woman rattled off everything that was holding back, pinning her down, going wrong and stripping her of her confidence, dignity and possibly her sobriety. When she finished, the sponsor told her to immediately go to Wal-Mart and call her upon her arrival. As instructed the young woman upon her arrival frantically dialed the sponsors number. In a calm and supportive voice the sponsor instructed the young woman to go to the toy department where she would locate and purchase one single item…a hula hoop. She instructed the young woman to call her back once the transaction was completed before hanging up the telephone.

Anxious and somewhat baffled she went in search of the toy department, purchased a hula hoop redialed the sponsors number. The sponsor answered on the third ring projecting a smile and reassurance in her voice. She then instructed the woman to take her purchase and go out to the parking lot. The young woman frowned, but did as instructed without question.

Once outside, the sponsor told her to take the hula hoop in both hands and slowly raise it above her head. After a few seconds the sponsor instructed her take two deep cleansing breaths and to drop the hula hoop over her body allowing it to fall to the ground.

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The young woman again did as instructed and stood in silence as the hula hoop begin to free-fall from above her head quickly landing on the ground at her feet.

The sponsor said nothing, the young woman said nothing, the curious passerby’s said nothing as they stared with curiosity at the odd young woman. After what seemed like an eternity the sponsors voice crackled through the phone.

Inside this hula hoop is everything within your control and all things outside the hula hoop…well ehh, not so much lay all things beyond your control.

The young woman paused and pondered the sponsors words and then she silently took one step outside of the hula hoop, bent over and lifted it off the ground. She held it tightly in the grasp of her two hands and slowly raised it over head pausing for a brief second before allowing it to rapidly fall to the ground encasing her body in the process.

20120725-110607.jpg …and then she laughed. Here’s another thought…no one controls everything.

Should you ever have a similar moment, feel free to go purchase a hula hoop, raise it high above your head and allow it fall to the ground identifying your boundary of control. Because we all must acknowledge what “WE” are able to control.

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Her secret is, she acknowledges she can only control what is within her        hula hoop.

 

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